This is a sponsored conversation written by me on behalf of Motee. All opinions and text are my own.

College is hard. That's why it's important to surround yourself with positive people that can motivate, collaborate and stick together. Learn how. - Ali in Bloom

College is a really pivotal, developmental period in everyones’ lives, and you’re constantly surrounded by new people. Whether you realize it or not, the tribe you run with can greatly impact how your college years turn out. I’ve seen a number of students fail in their college careers because they chose to surround themselves with the wrong group of people and were negatively impacted.

Why It’s Important to Surround Yourself With Positive People

At the end of the day, we are in control of our own emotions, our own attitudes and our own motivation, but there is no doubt that the people we surround ourselves with can greatly affect us — both positively and negatively. A positive influence will help you with your goals, keep an optimistic outlook on life, seek joy and make you want to improve on yourself. A negative influence will do just the opposite, inhibiting you from reaching your goals, promoting pessimism and not pushing you to be your best self. In fact, Jim Rohn, entrepreneur, author and motivational speaker, found in his research that “positive social connection is the greatest predictor of long-term happiness.” (1)

College is hard. That’s why it’s important to surround yourself with positive people that can motivate, collaborate and stick together. Honestly, it’s important to find those kinds of people at any point in your life, but let’s stick with college for now.

How to Surround Yourself With Positive People in College

Sign Up for a Club

Signing up for a club is probably one of the easiest ways to find like-minded people. I, for example, was involved with my college’s newspaper and art magazine as well as a sorority. I chose all of these activities because I was able to talk to people who were passionate about the same things as I was. At the newspaper, I got to talk about grammar. At the art magazine, I got to talk about fun events happening around campus. In my sorority, I could talk about philanthropy and leadership. Those people brought me up because they understood me, we were part of a team and we stuck together as one in our organizations.

Join Motee

Motee is a brand-new website that just launched in August of 2017. It has a couple different features, but all of them revolve around collaborating, motivating and encouraging students to stick together. On the site, you can encourage your friends and classmates through positive messages, create study groups by connecting with students in your classes, find a local peer tutor on your campus or even sign up to earn money tutoring. The best part is that students register for free using their college email addresses. You can see the website in action below.

 

 

What stands out most to me about this website is that the overarching theme is encouraging others. Sure, college isn’t full of snarky, discouraging people, but it’s also really easy to get caught up in what is going on in our own lives. Let’s face it, college is hard, and sometimes we get so stuck on getting by that we forget to encourage other people. Collaboration, motivation and sticking together actually make the process so much easier. It’s worth the extra time and effort. So, join the movement. Join Motee.

Participate in Class

With that being said, I think it’s really important to participate in class. In a big lecture hall, it’s easy to give into the temptation to browse the internet or send out a text or two, but participating in class requires you to pay close attention and helps you learn better and retain more information. Several studies completed over the last couple decades show strong correlations between student engagement and student achievement. These correlations are strong for all levels of instruction, all subject areas and for varying activities. (2) It also fosters collaboration inside the classroom, keeping in line with what Motee hopes to continue outside of the classroom.

Talk to Your Professor

Really great professors are really great resources. While finding motivating peers to surround yourself with is important for success, I’m also a huge proponent of finding a mentor. Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

With that in mind, why not spend time with people you have a lot to learn from? The only thing that can happen is you become better, you become stronger, you become wiser. In college, professors are right there in front of you every day, and more often than not, they are open to talking with their students. That’s what office hours are for! So, attend office hours or approach your professor after class and schedule a time to discuss the lecture, other related topics or your career goals. Not every student puts in that much effort, and professors appreciate good effort.

So, I want to know: How did you find your college tribe?

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